How “Warning” people about others can cause more harm than good.

I know at times it can be very difficult to not warn friends about other people, but let me tell you how that can be more detrimental than a good thing. Doing this, you may be stunting another persons growth and stopping a lesson that needed to happen. Whether with your friend, that person, or both. I remember watching an episode of “Red Table Talk” , which is a Facebook series of Jada  Pinkett Smith’s. On one episode she had Gabrielle Union, that was their first time speaking in seventeen years due to some unresolved issues and drama. Gabrielle then spoke honestly about how much of a negative person she was, how she felt small in the presence of other women who received equal attention, and if it wasn’t for AJ Johnson (and hitting rock bottom)  calling her out at a party she would have never noticed and then changed her behavior. Gabrielle mentioned how she was insecure and talking about others made her feel “bigger”, we all know a person who may be just that, so we cut them off or avoid them. We then try to get anyone else who finds them fun or interesting to not hang around them. Gabrielle had other life changing things happen, and is now the epitome (in my opinion) of a carefree, healed, happy, black woman, who is constantly evolving for the better. But imagine if AJ Johnson stopped hanging around Gabrielle Union because of her reputation, she would have never bought her to the light and called her out -respectfully- on her ways. After seeing that clip, it made me realize that, it isn’t our place to stop interactions between two people. We don’t know why they are crossing paths. We may not have had a good run in with them, but that was OUR experience.