How to begin the healing process

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It is 2018 and I think more and more people are becoming more aware of depression and how serious it is. What we haven’t done is found any natural ways to deal with it. Although acknowledging this illness is a step in the right direction, what are we to do next to start the healing process. 

Well allow me to let you in on my journey. The very first thing I did was go to the behavioral health center in my city, after being there almost an hour and only speaking with the counselor for about 10 minutes I was prescribed depression and anxiety medication. After a few weeks I begin to think what would happen long term if I continued to take this and when will I stop taking it. I did not want to be dependent on this, especially because it started to bring out emotions I had learned to mask, I was angry and crying more than I had ever before, shortly after noticing that, I stopped taking it. Ok ok, I’ll be very honest, one major reason I stopped was because I had just started drinking, and taking medication with alcohol is a huge no no, but I was  20 and barely drink anyway, and was not about to allow some rushed prescription medication to stop me when I did feel like “acting my age”. 

After only a month or so of taking medicine, I let go completely and started asking people who I felt were at a higher vibration than I, how do I become happier. I received very valuable yet simple advice, shout out to Idalesia and Sherrell for having such warm trusting spirits. I don’t even think I had even built a strong enough bond with them yet, yet felt comfortable asking “what do I do”. After a quick chat with both I learned to meditate, I begin to smile - letting go of any anger- before bed and thinking positive thoughts when I woke up, took deep breaths constantly, listened to India.Arie in the morning on metro on my way to work and at night so I can sleep peacefully. Listening to music with mellow sound waves and a positive message helps a lot! India’s music helped with forgiveness and piece of mind. 

Fast forward a year and a half, my first real break up, I was torn and felt my happiness was snatched from under me, I’ll discuss that in another blog. Anyway, the little bit of happiness I did obtain almost shipped away, right along with him. But in the end, I actually did a good job dealing with it, but I still had issues floating  around from childhood, I still needed to work on me. I guess I felt that I managed to find a little joy in good music, candles, and deep breaths that I was “healed”, boy was I wrong. After my break up I started doing solo dates, meaning by myself so I could get to know me a little bit more. That worked for a little while, but there was still some frustration there I just couldn’t kick, I knew there was more work to do. So I did something I never thought I’d do, I started looking into self healing books. I said something I’d never thought I do because I’m not a huge fan of reading, I’m more of a visual learner and love documentaries and YouTube videos. Two of the first books I purchased were “Even Happier” by Tal Ben- Shahar and “Life’s Too Short” by Abraham J. Twerski. They were so easy to understand, yet I haven’t finished either one. Yes, I am working on finishing what I’ve started! I am still a work in progress, but I still strongly suggest those books as a start to evolving. I’ve gotten better over the years but still struggle with clearing my brain for just a few moments and simply listening to my heartbeat. I’m still learning to make exercise and meditation a part of my daily life, especially meditation, it helps more than you know if you just let go and breathe! Before you say “it’s not that simple”, stop, do not say it, you are programming your subconscious to actually believe it can’t be that simple! Take control, do not allow the depression and anxiety to control you. 

I have not mastered everything, but the few things I have, I will share it with you and the rest we will learn together. 



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